In the patriarchal society, women are usually marginalized in every walk of life and this marginalization takes place from her home where she starts suppressing her will, rights and wishes intentionally just to provide more comfort to her family specially to her husband. Husbands always know and claim their rights on their wives. But the question arises here: had there been any debate about wife rights on her husband on religion, political and social grounds? When the two humans come into conciliation and own each other custody. There comes the responsibility. Responsibility stretched on every area of her /his life. Here responsibility denotes rights. Give and take make life easier but where only giving and giving is continuous then life become liability, devoid of pleasure and happiness instead of blessing. Living love life is very easy, you need no to go to adopt some filmy stunts occasionally. It is just acknowledging each other rights and duties on daily basis and you will find the love in the air.
Let’s start with home. She is doing what is not her duty and she is being stopped from what is her right.
Household chores/domestic labor- do you acknowledge it?
By the book, she has no duty to do household chores that includes cooking, washing, laundry, cleaning etc. if she does it by coming into conformity then it is here Ahsaan on you and if she takes responsibility then you are not supposed to begrudge upon her. You must arrange maid for her assistance.
Is your wife a working woman?
Is she earning and contributing in budget? Is she lending hand to you along having in home responsibilities being properly done? Are you not acknowledging her effort? You are wrong here my dear Mr. absolute. She is not responsible for managing economy but home economics. She even deserves a fair share from your money for her personal use. You must stay grateful to your wife if she is doing more than you deserve.
If she has social links other than family?
Do you mind if she has extended links and friends outside her private sphere? Well for get the cultural traits and adopt Islamic propositions which dictates balanced way of living with personal freedom. Her having links with friends after marriage will not bring ignominy on your name. it is not casting a slur upon your respectable status. You must not proscribe her from the exercise of rights by her. Apply Islamic rules which are the most indomitable torchbearer of human rights.
If we-man- judge her honestly and ponder situation holistically then there are wide chances, then we will fall in love with her in the very moment. Appreciate what she is doing more and don’t resent for what she is not responsible…
Article Credits: Pakistan Marriage Online
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